Why solo

Mainly feeling in-adequate bc my girlfriend dumped me I think mainly bc I couldn't give her enough love !? and for some reason I  just have this deep urge to solo a big route  ! 

I fell 25ft a couple years ago while " bouldering " and woke up in the hospital.  I had my ropes sitting in the car . I swore I'd never really solo again.  I really know better but just looking to maybe connect with anybody who feels the same and let them know you are adequate, in fact we're all amazingly blessed beings ... I'm just super grateful for all you wonderful people on mountain project and all the amazing people I've climbed with and met over the years. Happy climbing !

She was a drag, all your friends said so and you're better off now. Happy climbing 

Thanks buddy, I know, just man up 

I've been there. Stay strong and stay safe, buddy.

It's a quite common desire to do sketchy stuff when you're feeling depressed. I think soloing can really help put you in a state of mindfulness, so by all means do it if it feels right. But maybe also seek out some therapy if that feeling concerns you.

Sounds like a good time to explore climbing near the boat. I’ll come up there if I get some time of work or give you good beta. I’ve climbed there a bunch. 

I soloed Epinephrine when the girl I was crushing for hard said she wasn't interested. I truly really didn't care if I fell/hold broke. At the time it gave meaning to a cruel existence and I was satisfied when I did it. Turns out life goes on and I'm with a wonderful lady now. 

Goddess mother a lot of y'all need therapy

Have you ever tried, idk.... just jerkin it instead???

Use this time to thrive.  Throughout human history, great things get accomplished, discovered, or created by men whose hearts are being hammered  hard within the flames of love.

Seize this gift as it is presented.  In fact, I attribute my inability to break from the chains of perpetual mediocrity largely due to my astounding success with women.   

Mark Pilatewrote:

astounding success with women.   

Since you used the plural this is an oxymoron. 

Greg Dwrote:

Since you used the plural this is an oxymoron. 

Hmmm.  Not so sure about that.  Seems only a complete moron would keep it to the singular.  Did you stop climbing after only one route?  ;)

C Hwrote:

Goddess mother a lot of y'all need therapy

Shout out all my homies with valid comments. Thank you.

I think some of us are here for therapy. I hope all of you never need actual therapy or feel like you need to vent by adding sarcastic comments !  

Have a great week ya'll !

If you choose to solo a big route, do it for yourself with humility and pride. Don't let external factors push you into it man!

Suicidal thoughts are best dealt with in a therapists care, not on the rock. There's no shame in wanting or needing therapy, every single person could benefit at some point in their life from a good therapist.

i think you're asking good questions in the right place.  If you can figure out why you want this and what you're really trying to gain you'll know if this is right for you.  Sorry the girl didn't work out.

S2k4 MattOateswrote:

Mainly feeling in-adequate bc my girlfriend dumped me I think mainly bc I couldn't give her enough love !? and for some reason I  just have this deep urge to solo a big route  ! 

I fell 25ft a couple years ago while " bouldering " and woke up in the hospital.  I had my ropes sitting in the car . I swore I'd never really solo again.  I really know better but just looking to maybe connect with anybody who feels the same and let them know you are adequate, in fact we're all amazingly blessed beings ... I'm just super grateful for all you wonderful people on mountain project and all the amazing people I've climbed with and met over the years. Happy climbing !

Just ask yourself “Why not solo?”.

The hardest part about soloing is beating back all the strange you’re gonna have when you get back to the parking lot.
exhausting really 

My first trad mentor, who had done his fair share of "third-classing," told me back in 2010 that breakup soloing is using climbing for something outside its scope of practice.

I generally invoke Tyler Durden when it comes to discussing this topic online or at the gym.

Mark Pilatewrote:

Hmmm.  Not so sure about that.  Seems only a complete moron would keep it to the singular.  Did you stop climbing after only one route?  ;)

A route does not need my affection.

A route does not need my patience. 

A route does not need my friendship. 

A route does not need my loyalty. 

A route does not need my love.  

Only a D@$#& would compare doing routes to women.  (fill in the blank. name calling wouldn't even do it justice)

Greg - we are actually in complete agreement, and if you’re sincere, that’s good and I can appreciate it   

However,  I envision you reading the MP forums something like this…