How To Find A Climber Girlfriend

Conan Vandelwrote:

I guess we’re getting different google adds. I think there’s already one on the market.

Fill me in, Conan. What is it??

W Kwrote:

Fill me in, Conan. What is it??

I’ve never clicked them, but there have been adds for a climbing dating site all over my adds since I started buying climbing gear online.

I met my climbing girlfriend on Coffee Meets Bagel.  I don't remember climbing in her profile.  It was lucky were were into the same things.  

Cesar Cardenas wrote:

PS don’t be a creep at the gym/crag/online. 

The problem is that guys are creeps until proven innocent.  Haha

I came to this conclusion after hanging out with a bunch of girls at a yoga retreat in Mexico.

The difference if they think you are cute/attractive, you are not a creep.  I dont think of this as women are being prejudice against men, but women are being cautions.  

I think Gym's and Crags are a good place to meet people IRL - In Real Life.  It will seem like your rejection rate is higher, but it's more natural than online.  Yet, in the last few years of dating, I have been more successful online.  

I think your pool of people would be larger and more fulfilling if you explain to people that you are very passionate about your hobbies and that said person can or cannot join you but that you want to be able to pursue them. I climb quite a bit and my wife hates climbing.

I was married to my climbing partner for 28 years then we went our separate ways. Finding a new girlfriend or romantic partner is very easy.   Finding another climbing partner not so much.  You might be better off not dating your climbing partner, as they are much harder to find than a romantic partner is.  Climbing is not dating!  However, your new romantic partner will most likely have issues with you if your climbing partner is of the opposite sex. Trust is a huge factor in climbing and in relationships for both parties and their significant others.  Be open, be honest, be upfront, be respectful and remember women/men (whichever applies to you) will come and go out of your life but a solid climbing partner is very rare treasure them it is about trust and safety.   Just my 2 cents but most relationship end eventually.   If you are really into climbing and you lose your partner, it will sting.  Getting a divorce is like a death you will lose your best friend, your lover, and your climbing partner.  I would encourage you to have a broader perspective with your relationship you do not want to pull a hat trick.  Trust me if you do pull the hat trick it is extremely painful.  The flipside of this is if you do happen to develop a romantic relationship with another climber, it will be very intense and fulfilling.  It might be twice the reward but it will for sure be twice the pain if it ends.  Best of luck!

the key is to date an Ex-climber.  you don't have to climb with them, but they can belay or carry pads and spot.  They understand that you'd rather go climbing and aren't offended, but most importantly, you don't have to pretend to be invested in their project.  

I have dated both climbers and non-climbers. Honestly,  dating someone who also climbs has been better for me because we can spend time outside, doing the things you love together,  even if you're at different levels. I think an important thing to consider is that the other person might have things that rank higher on their priorities list (studying and working in medicine is mine!) And to not make them feel guilty or less of a partner in the relationship for having to put other things before climbing.  My ex did this constantly and it created a lot of unnecessary and unhealthy tension. Instead, enjoy the times when you can do your outdoor things together but also have other climbing/ skiing partners and don't place all your expectations to be completely fulfilled or entertained on that one person. 

You could meet a girl who is open minded to climbing but not a climber yet, as your start dating she will catch the bug hopefully then in a year or so she will be a crusher. That is what happened to me. 

I was climbing in clear creek once and I saw two women climbing a route when another climber, male, soloed the route next to her and started spraying unsolicited beta. You could try that?

Vince Nettwrote:

I was climbing in clear creek once and I saw two women climbing a route when another climber, male, soloed the route next to her and started spraying unsolicited beta. You could try that?

It's a little-known fact that Honnold met Sanni that way.

Princess Puppy Lovrwrote:

I think your pool of people would be larger and more fulfilling if you explain to people that you are very passionate about your hobbies and that said person can or cannot join you but that you want to be able to pursue them. I climb quite a bit and my wife hates climbing.

Before I got into climbing ~1.5 years ago, I was a mountain bike racer for fun.  I spent a lot of time training and racing.  I tried to include my my long term girlfriend and even bought a tandem, but most of the time it did not work.  Eventually, she complained about not not spending enough time together.  The relationship ended for other reasons, but not spending enough "quality time" was a small issue.

When I started dating again, I was open to non-cyclists and climbers, but I would much prefer that we share the same passions which is automatic quality time.

Asking a group of strangers on an internet rock climbing forum how to pick up chicks? You will be getting laid in no time my friend 

Joseph Brodywrote:

Before I got into climbing ~1.5 years ago, I was a mountain bike racer for fun.  I spent a lot of time training and racing.  I tried to include my my long term girlfriend and even bought a tandem, but most of the time it did not work.  Eventually, she complained about not not spending enough time together.  The relationship ended for other reasons, but not spending enough "quality time" was a small issue.

When I started dating again, I was open to non-cyclists and climbers, but I would much prefer that we share the same passions which is automatic quality time.

Tandems are how divorces happen! There is a dirtbag diaries about tandems and relationships. That aside, There is a similar issue here. My wife actually likes mountain biking but she doesn’t want to be alone and wants to cruise easy stuff all day. I don’t want to ride easy but I would rather spend time with her than ride hard. Just sharing a hobby doesn’t necessarily mean you will enjoy sharing it with them. I think bottom line is communication is the prevailing theme. If some one accepts you wanna climb 60% of all waking hours because you communicate that, I don’t really see that as better or worse than being a climbing partner just different.

I tell my guy friends that if they really want a climber girl, they might be better off "growing their own." Especially if they are very strong climbers and trying to find someone at a similar level, she's probably going to have her own objectives and might not necessarily want to climb what you want. I think there are a lot of important qualities to look for in a romantic partner and it's so hard to find someone that matches well that shared interest in an activity is secondary. But, if you can manage to meet someone amazing who also climbs, it seems reasonable to just ask her if she wants to climb and exchange numbers. Usually, it's pretty obvious to the woman if a guy might be interested in something more, and you should follow her lead (so to speak!) to see if she is open to that. To avoid being a creep, just assume she knows it's an option if you've dropped any hints at all. As for where to meet a climber girl, really anywhere--gym, crag, campsite, etc. As someone said above, if she's into you, you won't come off as creepy. Good luck! 

Princess Puppy Lovrwrote:

Tandems are how divorces happen! There is a dirtbag diaries about tandems and relationships. 

Tandem kayaks  are called  divorce  boats

Mary Moonwrote:

I tell my guy friends that if they really want a climber girl, they might be better off "growing their own." Especially if they are very strong climbers and trying to find someone at a similar level, she's probably going to have her own objectives and might not necessarily want to climb what you want. I think there are a lot of important qualities to look for in a romantic partner and it's so hard to find someone that matches well that shared interest in an activity is secondary. But, if you can manage to meet someone amazing who also climbs, it seems reasonable to just ask her if she wants to climb and exchange numbers. Usually, it's pretty obvious to the woman if a guy might be interested in something more, and you should follow her lead (so to speak!) to see if she is open to that. To avoid being a creep, just assume she knows it's an option if you've dropped any hints at all. As for where to meet a climber girl, really anywhere--gym, crag, campsite, etc. As someone said above, if she's into you, you won't come off as creepy. Good luck! 

I was well aware that tandems are a "test of a relationship". I talked to other couples that owned them. Its all about 'communication', haha.

I bought a used Trek tandem and we had some fun on it, but since we were the same height, it fit me, but it was too small for her.  I performed a bunch of modifications to make it fit her, but it was not enough.  Stock tandems are fit for a tall captain (up front) and a short stoker (in the back).  We could co custom, but I did not think it was worth it.

We tried a all day tandem kayaking on cresting ocean swells on Napali Coast in Kauai.  I call that the white knuckle kayak trip.  It was stormy in the morning and nice in the afternoon. That was fun, LOL.  

W Kwrote:

I've been joking for a long time about developing a dating app for "climbers". Maybe I should just do it...

If you do, be sure to recruit a lot of brand ambassadors to casually pimp it on social media repeatedly.

Brody W wrote:

The problem is that guys are creeps until proven innocent.  Haha

Everyone's a creep until someone wants something from them.

Kole Hwrote:

and invite her on her first trad multipitch.