How to find yourself a good climbing man

Andrew Krajnikwrote:

What if it's only been 6 months?

Then you are mildly ugly most likely

All climbers are beautiful 

There are so many more dudes than women climbing.  just go climbing. you should be the one to pick and choose who you want to climb with . Remove the dating crap from the equation. that gets rid of the awkward shit associated with dating . keep climbing with different dudes. If you have a really good climbing day with someone then start just climbing with them.  if sparks are gonna fly they will.  It's ladies choice in that game.    

Nick Goldsmithwrote:

There are so many more dudes than women climbing.  just go climbing. you should be the one to pick and choose who you want to climb with . Remove the dating crap from the equation. that gets rid of the awkward shit associated with dating . keep climbing with different dudes. If you have a really good climbing day with someone then start just climbing with them.  if sparks are gonna fly they will.  It's ladies choice in that game.    

Then she would be climbing under false pretenses.

What? you think she is the first woman with an agenda.....   Some lucky dude will be damn lucky she has an agenda... 

Hahahahha. Okay, so I actually know who this is in “real life” and she is personal climbing partner of mine.  So I will vouch for her 1000%. She is genuinely serious about finding a climbing BF.

She’s also an absolute fucking crusher and way cuter than “mildly”, so yeah. ;)

Also, I’m sure if you get to know her, she’ll send you her ticks/to-do list. 

I need a link to an 8a or some ticks elsewhere to confirm crusher status

Avoid climber girls at all costs. Find a wonderful muggle that doesn't need you around all the time, not a climber girl that actually needs you around all the time just to get a catch.

Curious Climberwrote:

I’m sincere. :)

When I go on Tinder and Bumble I will only have climbing photos and explicitly say I want a climbing man. Yet 99% of the time I get muggles.

After a while hikers start to look like climbers.

This is the danger. If you dont watch out, you will find yourself going on hikes on perfect climbing days and begging your partner for belays which they will give, but also make you feel guilty for asking. Don't ask me how I know ... ;) better to hold out for a climber. Shared goals and passions go a long way. 

One of her requirements that she won’t mention on here…but I totally am going to (because it’s my job as a friend to heckle)… is that you have to also at least be able to “lead 5.10 sport”.

Best of luck to everyone hahahah.

Ry Cwrote:

One of her requirements that she won’t mention on here…but I totally am going to (because it’s my job as a friend to heckle)… is that you have to also at least be able to “lead 5.10 sport”.

Best of luck to everyone hahahah.

I feel called out. :D true.

how many PMs have come through so far?

Curious Climberwrote:

If none of your friends have told you you are ugly in the past 12 months then you are at least mildly cute.

Just wanted to mention it for the other guys who are all "damn, I get told I'm ugly all the time!" 

My friends and I wouldn't be friends if we didn't call each other ugly bastards all the time. So that kind of ugly doesn't count and you're still in this race, so get back in there!

Ry Cwrote:

Hahahahha. Okay, so I actually know who this is in “real life” and she is personal climbing partner of mine.  So I will vouch for her 1000%. She is genuinely serious about finding a climbing BF.

She’s also an absolute fucking crusher and way cuter than “mildly”, so yeah. ;)

Also, I’m sure if you get to know her, she’ll send you her ticks/to-do list. 

ummmmm sounds like your name should be in the hat...

that is, unless your friends keep calling you ugly...

curt86irocwrote:

ummmmm sounds like your name should be in the hat...

that is, unless your friends keep calling you ugly...

Unfortunately I don’t fit her requirements as I am not a man, I’m only kind 50% of the time, and I’m solidly medium ugly. 

Nick Goldsmithwrote:

There are so many more dudes than women climbing.

It's 60/40 now. And climbing was heavily skewed male in previous decades, so among people in their 20s it might even be closer to 50/50?

Ry Cwrote:

“lead 5.10 sport”

I tell women on dating apps that I'm a solid 5 12, but they get pissed that I'm short when we meet. Like short people can't climb hard.

Chase Chosswrote:

It's 60/40 now. And climbing was heavily skewed male in previous decades, so among people in their 20s it might even be closer to 50/50?

I must be at the wrong areas or crags in that case

Ry Cwrote:

Unfortunately I don’t fit her requirements as I am not a man, I’m only kind 50% of the time, and I’m solidly medium ugly. 

Are you looking for a good climbing BF as well?

Troll. . . oh hum. . .

Hate to break this to you, but here is the reality you are facing, and I have seen this a lot.

You are a "well educated, medium cute girl", but the biggest problem, that I surmise, if that you are a below mediocre climber.

There are two types of male climbers: (1) those who are really good, extremely driven. and (2) Those who persistently climb 5.9s, 5.10s, and struggle on 5.11s, AKA, shitty climbers.

Type 1 climbers might initially be attracted to cute girls, but it is absolutely dreadful for those really good climbers to pair up with shitty girl climbers. Imagine a 5.13/14 climber dating a girl who struggles on 11s and bitching about it day in and day out. Absolutely no fun.

In their mind, climbing is a highly cognitive sport/endeavor, a girl who does not strive to be good is a reflection of their weak constitution, aka they lack the effort and drive to improve and their lack of cognitive ability to analyze and improve why they are not doing well. 

This personality trait, to be honest, is not attractive, despite how cute the girl is.  Therefore, this type of girl does not attractive type (1) guys, and you are left with type (2) guys, aka shitty climbers who obviously are not physically attractive.

You are picky about the guys, but they are picky as well.

Moral of the story: if you are not a good climber, that is a reflection of you as a person. Get better as a climber first, or you are left with type (2).