Best thing to say when your partners freaked out on lead?

Whats the best thing to say to your partner when they are freaked out on lead? 

"blow off I'll lead this hog"

From an 80s Climbing artcle.

I would say ask your partner.  Some people need to hear “you’ve got this!”(or some variation), while others prefer silence while they mentally work through it. 

When I'm hearing the Demons of Doubt, it is calming to hear, "Hey, I'll do this if you're not feeling it."

"double dyno to the micro crimper"

Watch me here, buddy!

That's ok I've done this route before!

True story

Climb Onwrote:

I would say ask your partner.  Some people need to hear “you’ve got this!”(or some variation), while others prefer silence while they mentally work through it. 

And some people (like me) respond best by being told they can't do it and that they're gunna fail because it triggers the "I'll show you" centers of the brain. (I know, not healthy, it's a constant topic of conversation with my therapist.) 

I've told some partners, "No pressure to do this. You can leave a biner, if you want."

And, "Take your time. I've got you."

I think one of the dumbest things I've heard is "Just go for it." Easy to say when you're on the ground and it's not your bones that will be broken.

Two very distinct situations, one when your partner is scared cuz they're a couple feet above a bomber piece or bolt and they don't want to actually whip but are perfectly safe and another when they're in some degree of do not fall zone. In situation 1, a little "your gear's good, i got you!" is always appreciated. In situation 2, shut up while i figure this out please.

"Breath"

Extra oxygen in blood always helps

“Put that #2 camalot in! Quick!” 

VENGA

FrankPSwrote:

I've told some partners, "No pressure to do this. You can leave a biner, if you want."

And, "Take your time. I've got you."

I think one of the dumbest things I've heard is "Just go for it." Easy to say when you're on the ground and it's not your bones that will be broken.

"Just go for it" is absolutely what I need to hear if I'm freaking out in what is actually a relatively safe situation. 

Depending on the situation, "go for it" or "commit!" can be really good. Otherwise "I got you" or "I'm here with you" are my go tos. If it's really dangerous I just shut up.

The British are coming! The BRITISH. ARE. COMING!

Similar to "go up!", I love the classic "Just stand up!" beta shout.  Gee, why didn't I think of that?

Do a kickflip!

Willow Maewrote:

Whats the best thing to say to your partner when they are freaked out on lead? 

Not a damn thing.  Focus on your reaction as a belayer if your partner falls off... right NOW.

The next ones good.

If your leader is stressed, STFU and let them focus. Don't distract them unless they ask.

“OK bud yer ‘off belay’!” Then watch as the spirit of Jesus possesses them on the next move.