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HELP! Proposing while rock climbing???
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Sep 29, 2011
ditto what eric said. ditch the climbing idea. if she isn't fully into it, then it will seem like it is all about you (and climbing), instead of all about her. you shuold do it on her turf, or at least something that both of you are totally into, or something neutral. preferably something she is totally into.

this might seem like minor details, but you want to get started on the right foot.
Joined Dec 1, 2004
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Sep 29, 2011
Yeah, don't do it. This plan you're cooking up is about you, and if you're traditional enough to be planning a proposal like this, it should be all about her.

My friends were climbing Monkey Face at Smith Rock, and a climber came up behind them. He told them he was bringing up his girlfriend to propose to her on top. They let the couple pass ahead of them. It turns out she'd never aided before (common on that route...) and was clearly freaked out following, crying and not having a good time. We don't know how the proposal went, but it seemed very selfish of him, to me.

Ask yourself what will make it memorable and perfect for her, not just what you think is a cool idea.
Eric Fjellanger
Joined May 8, 2008
778 points
Sep 29, 2011
what others said. it's about her. well, actually, it's about both of you. do something that is equally meaningful to both of you.

are you both into hiking? a buddy of mine proposed atop one of the 14'ers. he was into climbing she wasn't but they were both into hiking and doing 14'ers.
Crag Dweller
From New York, NY
Joined Jul 17, 2006
271 points
Apr 9, 2012
Long over-due update...
Sorry to revive a dead post but several of you questioned whether or not I was proposing the way I WANTED TO or the way SHE WANTED TO be proposed to...

Well I thought long and hard.

Her mom let it slip (no pun intended) that I was planning on proposing while rock climbing. Then (one day after I finalized my new and improved plan) I made a "Your Mom" joke. Worst "Your Mom" joke ever. She said "speaking of my mom..." she was pissed, she wanted it to be a surprise and this was not what she wanted.

Well... I decided to go along with this being the plan and we planned out a rock climbing trip the following weekend.

I decided to propose to her where we had our first date...
(a do-it-yourself pottery and glass studio) She was still fuming and I made up a story about how a friend had been there and did a "Glass Fusion" thing and she failed to catch on... Not more than a day or two we were in this pottery/glass shop-she was wearing goggles, didn't see me coming until a huge plaster glass dog (that took me hours!) was sitting on top of the table with "Will You Marry Me?" written at the bottom.

I nearly dropped the dang thing-that would have been awesome... she burst into tears and said it was perfect (a surprise I guess).

I would like to buy you guys (and girls) a PBR. You all rock!!!

Wedding planning-she has been amazing... encouraging me to leave for the weekend to climb and get energy out (either I annoy her or I am doing a great job helping) and even let me register at REI!

So thank you all!

Oh and Mitch Zimmerman-I will give you your ten seconds by mentioning your name here... Please don't post here.
Joined Mar 5, 2009
43 points
Apr 9, 2012
OK what's the big deal? Congratulations! btw you guys will get to climb a lot even married as long as you both have a passion for it marriage is a good thing. Mr. Stone and I are always together having a blast being free bird hippies, we r not married but its just another name for a life partner i say. If you guys choose to have kids climbing can become more challenging for a while just stick together with it and hey people do it all the time, its about a union and mutual support. Best wishes for you both! € $t0& 960 €®
From Colorado
Joined Mar 10, 2012
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Apr 10, 2012
I wonder how it's going to work out with your soon-to-be MIL, she's really off to a fantastic start. Ray Pinpillage
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Joined Jul 23, 2010
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