ISO Gay Belay

Gay woman seeking other queer climbing partners. Looking to increase outdoor experience, train harder during winter months, get into trad. Trail running partners too. Lover of cracks, ice, and hopefully your friendship. 

Posting your location will help. 

RI based. PM me.

Sorry, new to Mtn Proj ~ didn’t realize there were partner forums (fora?) until just now 

wonderwoman wrote:

Hi Amanda - You might have some luck looking here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/OWANewEngland/ 

Thanks!

Hobo Greg wrote:

Just curious, do gay people give better belays

absolutely. when u feed slack rainbows spontaneously appear in the heavens. 

Hobo Greg wrote:

That's pretty darn cool.

not to mention every time a gay person takes, the barometric pressure recalibrates to match your climber’s ideal send temp

Hi Amanda,

LGBTQ climber here. I’m from Lincoln, RI and climb most weekends rock and Ice through the Northeast. Looking to hit some NH Ice this weekend. 

Sara

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Okay I have to ask, why are you only looking to climb with people in the LGBTQ community?

that guy named seb wrote:

Okay I have to ask, why are you only looking to climb with people in the LGBTQ community?

Do you look to climb specifically with other men sometimes? What about people that climb the same grade as you? What if you lived in another country? Would it be fun to climb with other Brits (assuming that you're British based on your location) sometimes? It's sometimes fun to spend time with people that share your values, interests, orientation, background, etc. Nothing wrong with seeking that out.

I’m gay, I climb with straight people all the time but sometimes it’s fun to climb with other queer people because 99% of my life is spent in a hetero-normative atmosphere. That is to say the default way of thinking is heterosexual even if it’s not homophobic. 

Climbing is a very social activity, and sometimes it’s nice to socialize with folks that share an interest. Sometimes it’s fun to climb with folks that are completely different from you. Sometimes it’s nice to meet people while climbing that you might be interested in dating too

Bob Johnson wrote:

Do you look to climb specifically with other men sometimes? What about people that climb the same grade as you? What if you lived in another country? Would it be fun to climb with other Brits (assuming that you're British based on your location) sometimes? It's sometimes fun to spend time with people that share your values, interests, orientation, background, etc. Nothing wrong with seeking that out.

No why would I?

Only to the extent of the climb, if doing a committing multipitch you have to discriminate on the grounds of safety and style. You wouldn't take some gym noob who can barely climb a 5.10 in the gym on a speed ascent of free rider.

Nope and yes i am a Brit.

I climb with who ever wants to go climbing, I climb with people from all walks of life often times politically, religiously and ethically completely apposed to me and I have never had an argument or anything more than them informing me of their beliefs while climbing and that's only because i ask.

Sara Paradis Sometimes it’s nice to meet people while climbing that you might be interested in dating too

There should really be a personals section to MP! 

Ira O wrote:

There should really be a personals section to MP! 

That's funny!

climbing friend,

ho ho ho!

clever use of the rhymings, I am liking what I project from my own mind the imagining how your personality it is.

But you are remembering:

that guy named seb wrote:

No why would I?

Only to the extent of the climb, if doing a committing multipitch you have to discriminate on the grounds of safety and style. You wouldn't take some gym noob who can barely climb a 5.10 in the gym on a speed ascent of free rider.

Nope and yes i am a Brit.

I climb with who ever wants to go climbing, I climb with people from all walks of life often times politically, religiously and ethically completely apposed to me and I have never had an argument or anything more than them informing me of their beliefs while climbing and that's only because i ask.

my climbing communities thus far have been dominated by straight cis men. good friends, but they can take up a lot of space, leaving me (and my very few queer climber friends) feeling small. sometimes it’s nice to feel seen, heard, and real while pursuing the things you love. 

Why does anyone care about Amanda's motivations? This isn't something that needs to be debated.

Hobo Greg wrote:

Maybe you can try speaking up instead of removing the people that are different than you.

She's not removing, she's adding - looking for new climbing partners. Women often post specifically looking for fellow women partners, presumably because either they would be more comfortable with another woman, or maybe because they like climbing with both but already have plenty of male partners. How is this any different? Or maybe you believe neither is acceptable? 

Climbing is social, and requires a huge amount of trust. No one is required to be 100% egalitarian in their choices of climbing partners and be willing to climb with anyone and everyone. 

There's nothing wrong with looking for a potential climbing/dating partner either, that thread for/by Casey got a lot of support I recall. 

Hobo Greg wrote:

Maybe you can try speaking up instead of removing the people that are different than you.

Yo. I don't think she's said anything about not climbing with straight cis-dudes. She just wants more homos (or gay folks, or lesbians, or queers, or however the individual chooses to identify) in her climbing life and that shouldn't be hard to understand. Sometimes women want to climb with other women, sometimes queers with other queers. That's just how it goes and the straight cis-dudes need to stop feeling excluded. If you need a better explanation check out the Shelma Jun enormocast. She very eloquently explains why women want to climb with other women. This same argument could be true for queers. . 

Hobo Greg wrote:

Maybe you can try speaking up instead of removing the people that are different than you.

climbing friend,

No.

This is inappropriate, yes?

It is quite alright if someone they are looking for partner of belay other than you.

all your flash are belong to me.

There's another thread on here suggesting a women's only forum. The responses here are exactly why. She's looking for a gay partner. That doesn't require comments from the peanut gallery.