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Harness Sex


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Forrest Carver · · Edgecomb, ME · Joined Jul 2014 · Points: 85

How important is it to use the right sex'd harness?

 I'd like to give my wife my old harness and get a new one, however she has an extreme hourglass body type and I still want it to be safe and comfortable. 

She will probably only be belaying with it. Maybe the odd toprope if I'm lucky.

TheBirdman Friedman · · Eldorado Springs, Colorado · Joined Jan 2010 · Points: 65

Based on the title of this thread, I was disappointed by the post. 

John Wilder · · Las Vegas, NV · Joined Feb 2004 · Points: 1,535
Forrest Carver wrote:

How important is it to use the right sex'd harness?

 I'd like to give my wife my old harness and get a new one, however she has an extreme hourglass body type and I still want it to be safe and comfortable. 

She will probably only be belaying with it. Maybe the odd toprope if I'm lucky.


It's fairly important to have a harness that fits correctly. This may or may not mean a womans harness for your wife. If the harness is too big for her, it could be uncomfortable for her to lower you or catch a fall- even on top rope. 

John Greer Jr. · · modesto, ca · Joined Jun 2009 · Points: 105
C Archibolt · · Salt Lake City, UT · Joined Apr 2012 · Points: 871
TheBirdman Friedman wrote:

Based on the title of this thread, I was disappointed by the post. 

Seriously. This was such click bait. 

Ammo Altavena · · Denver, CO · Joined Jun 2013 · Points: 0

I think generally its best practice to have sex once out of the harness, but hey I've peed while wearing my harness so I'm sure in-harness sex is possible too. 

Jon Frisby · · Colorado Springs, CO · Joined Feb 2013 · Points: 110

It's safe. Might be uncomfortable, but probably not for just belaying (assuming not a hanging belay)

kevin deweese · · Oakland, Ca · Joined Jan 2007 · Points: 420

If it fits snugly above her hips on on her waist, she'll be both safe and comfortable. IE: for harnesses, Fit > Gender-Specific design

s.price · · the deck of Rover or Pagosa… · Joined Dec 2010 · Points: 1,346

A few years back my brother sent me a video of a couple having sex while hanging off a cliff. It was my birthday card.

I have yet to talk the wife into trying it out.

Mark Says · · Aspen, CO · Joined Jul 2017 · Points: 395

I'm posting to this thread literally only so I can unsubscribe from it.

Forrest Carver · · Edgecomb, ME · Joined Jul 2014 · Points: 85
Jon Frisby wrote:

It's safe. Might be uncomfortable, but probably not for just belaying (assuming not a hanging belay)

Thanks a bunch, this is what I needed to hear!

And sorry for the clickbait. I'm not above cheap tricks

frank minunni · · Las Vegas, NV · Joined May 2011 · Points: 92
Ammo wrote:

I think generally its best practice to have sex once out of the harness, but hey I've peed while wearing my harness so I'm sure in-harness sex is possible too. 

Removable legs loops are definitely the ticket. It makes harness sex so much easier and definitely safer on a ledge.

Tom Stryker · · Unknown Hometown · Joined Aug 2014 · Points: 250

Now you know why we wore Swami belts BITD. Solves the actual problem you asked about and the other one too.

frank minunni · · Las Vegas, NV · Joined May 2011 · Points: 92

I wore a swami for many years.  But as I get older, I get more sore and less sex

Nick Drake · · Newcastle, WA · Joined Jan 2015 · Points: 481

Womens harness will are built with higher "rise", as their pelvic bone tends to be higher than mens. What this means is a longer belay loop on the womens model. If the belay loop is too short it will make the harness quite uncomfortable for her, pulling the front of the waist down and leg loops way up in the groin. Not all manufacturers have the smaller belay loop on a mens harness though, so you'll have to just try it out.

Also of note womens models also tend to have a larger diameter leg loop for a given waist size since women typically have a smaller waist. Men with thunder thighs rejoice.


Andrew Rose · · Unknown Hometown · Joined Sep 2017 · Points: 0

First the 'rope getting jacked off' thread and now this... 

Nut Tool · · Portland, OR · Joined Aug 2017 · Points: 0

What a letdown, opening this thread.

Old lady H · · Boise, ID · Joined Aug 2015 · Points: 743

Haha! 

Geez, you people accuse me of click bait titles?!?!

So, I wear a Big Gun, no problem with fit, except if I lose more weight.

I think she should do the same as anyone, for any harness: try it on and hang. I borrowed the Big Gun before I bought one, and used it all evening at the gym.

I know at least one guy in a ladies harness. It was his mom's!

Best, OLH

BrokenChairs BrettC · · Sultan, WA · Joined Feb 2015 · Points: 235

Why did you change the title now the awesome first post doesn't carry the same weight.  
S2k 4life · · Baltimore · Joined Sep 2015 · Points: 111
TheBirdman Friedman wrote:

Based on the title of this thread, I was disappointed by the post. 

Hahaha same

Heather Whatever · · Bishop, CA · Joined Oct 2014 · Points: 15
TheBirdman Friedman wrote:

Based on the title of this thread, I was disappointed by the post. 

I was ready for a good story or maybe some solid tips!!

Haha...solid tips...

Guideline #1: Don't be a jerk.

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