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Joe Huggins · · Grand Junction · Joined Oct 2001 · Points: 105
Mia Tucholke wrote:LMFAO....... My advise......let the girls try to pick you up, don't try so hard.....
Genius! I knew I liked you! Wanna go climbing?... forget I said that
Em Cos · · Boulder, CO · Joined Apr 2010 · Points: 5
Evan S wrote:I personally don't know ANY women who climb who are dating or even would date a guy who doesn't. Is this some kind of reverse double standard?
Not sure exactly what a reverse double standard is, but in my experience I haven't gotten too far dating non-climbers because they seem to think "I'll hang out with you this weekend if it rains" is somewhat rude.
APBT1976 · · Unknown Hometown · Joined Nov 2011 · Points: 55

Dating or a wife both just get in the way of climbing sooner or later. If this has not been your experience yet give some more time it will be in some way shape or form!!

Freedom is much more valuable imop but thats just me. Unless of course you are the type that needs company and companionship then maybe a wife or girlfriend and less or no climbing is more desirable in the end?

Each to there own but i would not want a climbing girlfriend. And i agree most any non climbing girlfriend would be very insulted that i only want to spend my free time with her when it is not raining and or the ice is all out. Or i do not have some trip planned to where conditions perfect for climbing.

I suppose a shoulder season girlfriend would be ok but that would get in the way of trail running and all the stuff that goes by the wayside all year due to my little climbing habit.

Elena Sera Jose · · colorado · Joined Mar 2012 · Points: 350

Mr. Stone and I met ice climbing we r both of the same mindset about life and climbing. Being on the same page about life is very important but u still adjust to each other. He is easy going which helps with my mood swings :) I think we r both kinda nutty in a good way ;)

Tim Pegg · · Unknown Hometown · Joined Dec 2009 · Points: 5

I taught my girlfriend to climb. She wasn't so into the climbing at first, but the scenery made up for it. She's not just indulging my interests anymore. Also, she hasn't left me for an alpha male yet.

That being said, it never would have worked if we didn't have other common interests. These interests included (when we were in school) terrible professors, other girls' butts on campus, hiking, and mutual friends.

Heather Mrozek Novak · · Golden, CO · Joined Jun 2008 · Points: 5

Well, as one half of a committed climbing couple, I can tell you I found it just as hard to meet a dude who climbed for the same reasons you describe (I didn't want to teach some guy who wasn't into it, didn't want to creep on dudes @ the gym, etc).
So, I went to a new friend's party where I knew almost no one and then opened my eyes and ears (and my heart, awwwww). I heard some dude behind me in the beer line professing his love for the latest Alpinist magazine, and that was that. It has been exactly four years now, and we are partners in adventure and in life.
So, I guess my advice would be-go to a social gathering where hot climber chicks are likely to hang out, spray your love for the sport gently in their direction, and see where it gets you!

Daniel Winder · · Unknown Hometown · Joined Jul 2009 · Points: 101

My girlfriend left me mostly because of my climbing and now I climb a full number grade harder.

matt davies · · Unknown Hometown · Joined Mar 2007 · Points: 25
erik kapec wrote:climb at their level never letting on how hard you actually can climb, and don't talk too much. Just listen to what she has to say. Hard to do but it gets you far...sometimes. If that doesn't work then just go to the bar.
Or just untie and jump... sounds like the suckiest time of all times
Derek W · · Unknown Hometown · Joined Jun 2008 · Points: 20
Wilderchick wrote:...didn't want to creep on dudes @ the gym, etc...
HAHAHAHAHA
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Wait, that exists? I didn't know girls could be creeps
Tom Mulholland · · #1 Cheese Producing State! · Joined Apr 2010 · Points: 50
Daniel Winder wrote:My girlfriend left me mostly because of my climbing and now I climb a full number grade harder.
Inspiring!
Bud Martin · · Bozeman, MT · Joined Apr 2010 · Points: 380
Evan S wrote:Try going out with women that you have OTHER interests in common with
Uhhh, what other interests?
Ryan Williams · · London (sort of) · Joined May 2009 · Points: 1,245

Looking for a girlfriend that is a climber is a bit rediculous if you ask me. What happens when you fall for a girl at work/school/on teh bus/etc and she isn't a climber? Are you going to dismiss her immediately? Probably not - especially if she's hot.

Looking for a girlfriend that shares your passion for an active lifestyle will be much easier nad make much more sense. It broadens your search pool by about 1000% and means that in time, she will probably want to climb with you anyways.

My wife was a runner before we started dating, but had never thought of climbing (or doing anything similar). It took a while, but eventually she flat out asked "When are you going to take me climbing?" Now she climbs with me when she can and I run with her when I can. More times than not we are doing these things alone, but when we want to do them together, we do.

Teaching someone to climb is not easy when they are the love of your life. That is why it's important to be patient and wait for them to show interest. Don't push them, and let them develop in their own way. If you take a relaxed approach, they will be much more comfortable asking you advice and asking to come along. If you push them, they will always feel like a beginner and you will always feel like you're dragging them along.

It's a fine line I think. If you are passionate about climbing I think that you need to find a partner that understands that, and many times the only people who understand are people with their own similar passions. If your passions are the same, great. If they overlap a bit, great. But be careful narrowing the field to women who are passionate about climbing - there aren't that many.

In the end, your trying to find someone to grow old with. Climbing is a small part of our lives in the grand scheme of things (for 95% of us anyways). There are many other ways to enjoy your life with your partner, and when you find someone you love you will understand that. If they like climbing anyways, that's icing on the cake in my book.

Tim Stich · · Colorado Springs, Colorado · Joined Jan 2001 · Points: 1,520

I had a great experience teaching my wife to climb when we were married. She had a negative experience with impatient friends when she first tried it, but I took her alone to a toproping wall and put her on a 5.7. It only took about six months to where she could climb the 5.10s in town and then she was asking when we could go climbing. I did my first multi pitch trad routes with her in Colorado and we enjoyed climbing for many years. She went back to Czech after that and no longer climbs from what she tells me. She had a bad wrist injury from falling rollerblading. So teaching your SO can work out.

My current gf and I met climbing in a climbing club I used to do trips with. I love climbing with her.

clausti · · Unknown Hometown · Joined Dec 2007 · Points: 5

Treat women you meet as human beings, whether or not they're climbers. Find one you like. Try not to be a douchebag. See if it works out. Repeat if necessary. "Every relationship you're ever in will fail, until one doesn't."

Women do tend to like guys that climb harder than them. If only because for a man and a woman equal levels of climbing psych.... the guy will *probably* climb harder. Not an absolute rule, but generally true.

Jeremy Hand · · Northern VA · Joined Feb 2012 · Points: 100

There are several different techniques that I can attest to.

You can find a non-climber (as I did) that is into the outdoors already and go hiking and camping frequently, then slowly introduce her into climbing outdoors. After climbing outdoors a few times make up an excuse get her into the gym, i.e. it is either too hot, too cold, too humid, too dry, too sunny, too cloudy, too windy, etc, etc.

Start going to the gym daily and she will want to come with you because, hey, you're an awesome guy and she doesn't want to leave your side... or maybe she wants to make sure you don't charm another lady.

After going to the gym a few times buy a 3-6 month membership and tell her you are going to climb 5 days a week and encourage her to buy a membership as well. ---This part is very important, the longer you work with her in the gym, the stronger she will be and the more psyched she'll be to come project stuff at the crag---

After this 8-9 month period you can successfully have a competent 5.11 sport lady who may or may not resent you for climbing every single day.

OR

Climb in the gym without your shirt, 'Sharma' scream everytime you do that gnarly v2 crux and then go and dick stab her in the fartbox.

Jeremy Hand · · Northern VA · Joined Feb 2012 · Points: 100
clausti wrote:Treat women you meet as human beings, whether or not they're climbers. Find one you like. Try not to be a douchebag. See if it works out. Repeat if necessary. "Every relationship you're ever in will fail, until one doesn't." Women do tend to like guys that climb harder than them. If only because for a man and a woman equal levels of climbing psych.... the guy will *probably* climb harder. Not an absolute rule, but generally true.
Sorry, but I do not think that is very good advice.

EDIT: for violating rule 1
Nick K · · Denver, CO · Joined Jul 2011 · Points: 30

I have two thoughts on this (admittedly not including any truly helpful advice):

The first, just date non-climbers, and when they break up with you, use that angst to fuel your climbing. The last relationship failure I had boosted my bouldering grade to V7 and I bought trad gear with all the money I saved so I could go on real climbs. Just don't injure yourself, because now I'm back to falling off V4. But I've got a pretty solid trad rack and the skills to use it.

The second, remember all those times you got annoyed at your partner because they short roped you/left out way too much slack and you fell and hit them/gave you shitty beta and sent you off route/weren't ready to start moving and left you hanging at a windy belay because they weren't tied in yet and didn't have their shoes on/etc? Imagine how much worse those discussions are when romantic emotions are involved. I have seen so many couples fight at crags over stupid things that my platonic climbing partners and I have said a few words over and then shrugged and moved on. This is how you console yourself whilst pining for a hot climbing chick.

The only constructive advice I have is to get out there and climb, the climbing women you want to meet are out there climbing. It's probably better for this if you're climbing at a sport crag or in the gym. Just be generally friendly and not creepy. If you're unsure of where that line is, you're lost.

Evan S · · Denver, Co · Joined Dec 2007 · Points: 510
Elena Sera Jose wrote: U don't know what love is. ......Forrest .....
And you don't have a sense of humor, or a grasp of western sarcasm.
Matt N · · Unknown Hometown · Joined Oct 2010 · Points: 415

At what point do the rejected guys partner up as alpinists?

Hansel · · Boulder, CO · Joined Mar 2007 · Points: 20

When women are younger, they go for the beefy, muscular, virile, 'manly' guys who they unconsciously associate with fertility, and with whom they think they will have healthy babies.

As women become more conscious, they go less for the beefcakes, and more for someone with whom they share similar interests, beliefs, and cultural references.

Word to the wise: don't let a younger woman use you as a conduit for babies, as they are often wont to do. You'll wake up to a divorce in your 40s because she realizes she now needs someone less beefy and more sentient. Be willing to be single, and careful what you ask for because you just might get it.

Guideline #1: Don't be a jerk.

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